Abusive husband kills peacemaker in Ogun State

An abusive husband and welder identified as Bidemi Akande, has been arrested by the Ogun State Police Command, for reportedly killing
a 43-year-old woman, Shakirat Fatusi, who is also the breadwinner of a family of seven children in the Ogba Ayo.

Akande and the deceased, who have kept their distances from eachother for sometime after she allegedly mediated in a fight involving Akande and his wife, were engaged in a scuffle after he made a derogatory remarks about the deceased who he met at his wife’s shop when she came around to buy pepper around 11pm on Tuesday.

Punch reports that the abusive husband reportedly pushed Shakirat, who she lost consciousness after she slammed her head on the ground. She was said to have gone into a coma and died at a trado-medical centre after her situation didn’t improve at the hospitals she was taken to.
Speaking on the incident, Shakirat’s husband, Segun Fatusi,  said:

“We have seven children together and she was the one catering to them. He had been having disagreements with my wife because she always asked him not to beat his wife.”

Confirming the incident, the Ogun State police spokesperson, ASP Abimbola Oyeyemi, said the case had been transferred to the State Criminal Investigations and Intelligence Department, Eleweran, on the orders of the state Commissioner of Police.

We also want to let you know that Abuse is a control issue- abusers believe they have the right to manipulate, control and humiliate another person, and this attitude is not only by men but also by some women.

Many at times what people hear or read about are women who in abusive relationships. When a man is a victim of his wife’s physical abuse, often times he is both ashamed by the assaults of his wife and regarded as a man that cannot control his wife.  Men going through abuse hardly speak out freely like you did for fear of been seen as weaklings.

Only a few summon the courage to speak out and seek counseling, a lot of them going through abuse are taking it like a man so they are not complaining or showing any sign of been vulnerable, or in pain.  Many of the effects of domestic violence for male victims are the same as women, for example feeling of fear, guilt, shame, isolated, confused, loss of self worth, low self esteem and so on.